Emotional Healing for Christian Women with Marvel Adeyemi | Psychotherapist.

EP 54 | MARRIED BUT VOICELESS (2) | How She Found My Voice In The Silence Of Our Home

In this episode, I sit down with Ruth Ferguson, author of the debut book 'Rooms Without Walls,' where she shares how she found her voice in her relationship. We explore her concept of 'rooms without walls,' discussing personal insights and practical strategies for setting healthy boundaries and achieving transformation in a Christian marriage.
I hope this blesses you.
 
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
⁠I’m Marvel Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get  resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and  finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠
 ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private WhatsApp group. Send me a request by email
✅ ⁠ email⁠ - contact@wholesomecounselling.com
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing, Interpersonal Therapy and faith-led wisdom.
 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
 
GUEST PROFILE
Ruth Ferguson is a Caribbean author, business professional and entrepreneur who has a passion for teaching and mentoring others. Ruth is the author of Room Without Walls: A Transformation Journey, which is her memoir and a self-help book for persons in need of emotional healing from hurt and trauma. 
 
Ruth's journey as an author began after a series of personal challenges dealing with grief and relationship trauma which reunited her with her love for writing. Through her faith in and dependence on God, Ruth experienced a renewed vigour to live her life full of purpose. 
 
Ruth believes in authenticity and encourages well-being through a person's relationship with God and themselves. 
 
For more information about Ruth's story, please visit: https://www.rfwrittenlegacy.biz/about/
 
Purchase links 
 
Amazon
Kindle: https://www.amazon.com/Room-Without-Walls-Transformational-Journey-ebook/dp/B0CZTZ3PQH/
Paperback: https://www.amazon.com/Room-Without-Walls-Transformational-Journey/dp/B0CZTWG243/
 
Website
https://www.rfwrittenlegacy.biz/reviews
 
Scribbles And Quills (bookstore)
https://scribblesandquills.com/shop/books/trinidadandtobagoauthors/room-without-walls-a-transformational-journey-by-ruth-ferguson/
 
Contact
Email: ruthferguson1177@gmail.com
Website: https://www.rfwrittenlegacy.biz/
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/ruth-ferguson-182687336
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Ruth-Ferguson/pfbid0sACyUK9DNxfjxxiFTSMzGpEVxyvM5XunJ7qvQRVjT5z879KVyUxfCtBsq1wrUrPBl/
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_ruth.writes?_t=8khoFViyiIv&_r=1
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ruth.writes?igsh=MTNxdHJ4Z2RiYmlrZg== 
X (Formerly Twitter): RuthFergus93381
 
Readers can also check out Ruth's blogs: https://www.rfwrittenlegacy.biz/blog
 
 
 
00:00
 - Introducing Ruth Ferguson: author, trauma survivor, and spiritual guide
02:16
 - The meaning behind "Rooms Without Walls" in marriage and boundaries
04:43
 - Establishing healthy boundaries to protect emotional well-being
07:27
 - Reclaiming your voice and confidence after emotional silence
09:34
 - Practical steps for strategic confrontation aligned with divine timing
12:50
 - Recognizing the importance of prayer and spiritual support in conflict
17:08
 - The significance of forgiveness, humility, and divine purpose in healing
23:22
 - Respectfully confronting silence and emotional distance
29:23
 - Understanding divine assignments in marital struggles
36:52
 - How to confront emotional and sexual intimacy barriers
44:08
 - Navigating emotional shutting down and communication gaps
49:18
 - Enforcing healthy consequences as acts of protection, not punishment
58:08
 - Building a legacy of transformation and biblical models for lasting marriage
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EP 53 | How to Lead with Spiritual Intelligence (SQ) in the Workplace

How do we bring our whole selves—faith included—to the office? In this episode, Professor Yewande Oshodi joins me to discuss Spiritual Intelligence. Learn how to lead with purpose and maintain your peace in even the most challenging professional environments.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thanks! For listening.
Timestamps:
00:00 - Introduction: Spiritual intelligence as a new frontier in professional development
02:13 - Defining spiritual intelligence from a Christian perspective05:40 - Connecting work to calling and kingdom purpose09:40 - Viewing work beyond a paycheck—finding deeper meaning and calling12:34 - How identity in Christ shapes our work and ethics18:38 - Practical ways to maintain inner peace during office chaos22:10 - Avoiding office gossip and toxic politics with spiritual wisdom27:28 - Trusting the Holy Spirit and intuition in decision-making30:21 - Balancing data, intuition, and divine guidance in career moves34:17 - Developing spiritual sensitivity and discernment in the workplace36:00 - Navigating ethical dilemmas and maintaining integrity through spiritual intelligence41:55 - Encouragement for women new to spiritual intelligence and prayer for renewed purpose in work
 
⁠I’m Marvel Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠
 Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and  finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠
 ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private WhatsApp group. Send me a request by email
✅ ⁠ email⁠ - contact@wholesomecounselling.com
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing, Interpersonal Therapy and faith-led wisdom.
 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
 
Guest Profile
Yewande Oshodi - (MBBS, MPH, FMCPsych, Mphil, Cert Child & Adol Psych) is a medical professional with broad experience in the field of psychiatry. She is an alumna of the University of Lagos, Nigeria, where she earned her medical degree about 28 years ago, and furthered her expertise at the Stellenbosch University in Cape Town, South Africa.
Prof. Oshodi lectured for over 17 years in the College of Medicine of the University of Lagos where she attained the position of Professor of Psychiatry, before she disengaged formally in January of 2026. 
Beyond her clinical and academic roles, Prof. Oshodi is a sought-after public speaker and trainer, works with NGOs, delivering talks and workshops on topics such as mental wellbeing, parenting, school mental health, and child and adolescent psychiatry. She is very passionate about mentorship, she devotes time to guiding younger colleagues, particularly women, in their professional and personal growth.
Prof. Oshodi’s life is deeply rooted in her Christian faith. She is a devoted believer in the Lord Jesus Christ, she has served as a minister at The Covenant Nation in Nigeria,  where she has worshipped as a member for many years. Outside of her professional and ministry commitments, she is a proud mother to three adult sons and a teenage daughter.
 
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EP. 52 | MARRIED BUT VOICELESS | How to Confront What’s Wrong with Wisdom

You Were Chosen on Purpose. Your husband loves you deeply. He would do anything for you. However, remaining silent in the face of harm often stems from cultural or perceived rules that prioritize peace over truth and safety. True confidence requires strategic silence—knowing when to speak up and when to hold back for the sake of your Calling. 
I hope this episode blesses you.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
⁠I’m Marvel Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠
 Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and  finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠
 ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private WhatsApp group. Send me a request by email
✅ ⁠ email⁠ - contact@wholesomecounselling.com
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing, Interpersonal Therapy and faith-led wisdom.
 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
You Were Chosen—Even When You “Shouldn’t” Have Been
Queen Vashti is dethroned.Esther is enthroned.
She shouldn’t have been—but she was.
She was chosen. Favoured. Positioned.
Esther was an orphan. She had no parents to advocate for her. She came from a conquered people. Her cultural background was completely different from King Ahasuerus. She did not grow up in privilege or proximity to power.
And yet—she was chosen.
And I want to pause right here, because I believe there are women listening to me who need to hear this plainly:
You may feel like you shouldn’t be where you are—but you are.
Some of you are wives who feel like you don’t quite “fit” the family you married into.Some of you were adopted.Some of you grew up poor and married into wealth.Some of you are from a different race, ethnicity, or cultural background.Some of you are children born out of wedlock.Some of you carry a history that doesn’t look polished or perfect.
It does not matter.
You are chosen.
And for some of you, the way you met your husband was nothing short of miraculous. You met at uni. At work. In church. In places that felt ordinary—but God was orchestrating something extraordinary.
Maybe it happened quickly.Maybe there was opposition.Maybe there were other “options” in the room—but the favour landed on you.
Your husband loves you deeply. He would do anything for you.
You were chosen.
When Being Chosen Starts to Feel Confusing
But then… things changed.
Some things began to happen in your marriage or family that started making you wonder:
Did I make a mistake?Am I in the wrong marriage?Why is my husband making decisions that don’t reflect who he used to be?
And you start asking questions you never thought you’d ask.
Is he under an influence?Is he bewitched?Is he being advised poorly?
Like King Ahasuerus, your husband may be surrounded by voices—his mother, siblings, friends, culture, social media—feeding him noise, opinions, pressure, and junk.
And those voices are pulling him—and your marriage—apart.
And here’s the hardest part:You know something isn’t right.You know you need to speak.But you’re afraid.
Afraid of breaking “protocol.”
The Dangerous Lie of Waiting for an Invitation
Esther had a legitimate excuse.
In Persian culture, approaching the king without invitation could mean death. There was a real law. A real risk.
And many women today carry their own version of that excuse:
“I can’t speak up unless he asks.”
“I shouldn’t rock the boat.”
“A good wife stays quiet.”
“If I say something, I’ll make things worse.”
Let me say this gently—but clearly:
Your king will not invite you.
That protocol you’re afraid to break?You will have to break it—prayerfully.
Culture has done a number on women. Especially in marriage. We are often socialised to endure, to accommodate, to silence ourselves in the name of peace.
But here is the truth most people won’t say out loud:
Marriage is not an even playing field.
Most men are socialised in patriarchy. They come into marriage with privilege—often without realising it. And unless you are willing to break unhealthy “protocol,” you risk losing more than peace.
You risk losing your marriage.Your family.Your purpose.
Confidence Is Built on Your Knees
Confidence does not come from shouting.It does not come from emotional explosions.It comes from prayer and fasting.
Esther didn’t rush into the palace emotionally charged.She withdrew.She fasted.She prayed.She aligned herself with heaven.
Find godly, mature women to pray with you.Women who can stand in agreement—not gossip.
And then—make the move.
That move might look like:
Naming emotional abuse.
Setting firm boundaries.
Enforcing consequences.
Saying “no more.”
Seeking counselling.
Creating space to hear God clearly.
Whatever that move is—take it.
That is confidence.
You Are Not a Wife for Title’s Sake
Mordecai said something that should shake every woman awake:
“Who knows whether you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?”
You are not a wife for title’s sake.You are not “Mrs So-and-So” just to keep appearances.
You have a mandate in your husband’s life.In your family.In this season.
And when you stay silent, things go wrong.
Silence is not always submission.Sometimes, silence is abdication.
And when you begin to pray—earnestly—you’ll notice something shift. Angels start moving. Conversations change. Timing aligns. Exposure happens.
Discernment: When Confusion Is a Spiritual Signal
Some of you feel confused. Betrayed. Disappointed.
That is not you being dramatic.
That is your spirit picking up a signal.
In Esther’s story, Haman consults dark systems. He sets dates. He manipulates power. He gains the king’s approval.
And Esther is at home—unaware but uneasy.
That unease matters.
Your husband might be under an influence.A parent might be advising him against you.Friends might be encouraging infidelity.Culture might be shaping his decisions.
Do not wait for a verbal confession.
Start praying now.
Ask God for discernment.
Because when you are desperate for love or approval, you are vulnerable. Dating—and marriage—is not harmless.
Some people have unknowingly befriended witchcraft through charisma, “prophetic gifting,” or spiritual performance without character.
Gifts are not fruit.
If someone shows spiritual insight early—observe quietly.Give relationships six months.Let character reveal itself.
Desperation is not readiness.Rest is preparation.
Strategy, Not Emotion, Brings Results
Notice this: Esther was strategic.
She did not approach the king emotionally flooded.She chose timing.She chose words.She chose wisdom.
Vent with a counsellor.Process with a safe, godly woman.Then approach your husband with clarity and respect.
Wake up the lioness in you.
Clean your eyes.Stand tall.Speak clearly.
Esther said, “If I perish, I perish.”
That is courage.
Conclusion: Get Up and Move
You are chosen.
It does not matter who disapproves of you.It does not matter what brokenness you’ve experienced.
Get up, sis.Move.Fulfil God’s mandate for this season.
You are not necessarily in a bad marriage.You are not necessarily married to the wrong man.
You need strategy—and God gives strategy to women who are willing to move.
If you haven’t read my book Beyond the Hurt, it’s available on Amazon, and the soft copy is on my website. It’s there to support your healing and clarity.
Until the next episode—
Stay confident.Stay beautiful.And stay prayed up.
 
TAGS
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EP.51| When Your Soul Outgrows Your Salary - How To Know When to Pivot.

You know that nagging feeling that you’re meant for more, but you're low-key terrified it’s too late to start over? We’re calling that Holy Frustration. This episode is basically a permission slip to stop ignoring that inner nudge and start seeing your restlessness as a divine signal to pivot.
The Vibe:
The "Mid-Life" Myth: We’re over the idea that you have to be "settled" by 30 or 40. With the world (and AI) changing so fast, shifting careers 5–7 times isn't just normal—it’s smart.
Dissatisfaction = Direction: That "itch" isn't a curse or a mid-life crisis; it’s God telling you your current space is getting too small for your potential.
Obedience over Likes: Real growth happens when you stop waiting for everyone else to "get it" and just start moving on what you know is right.
The Bottom Line: Staying stuck is way scarier than starting over. If you’ve been waiting for a sign to finally make that move, realign your life, or chase that "crazy" dream—this is it. You aren't behind; you're just getting ready for your next chapter.
 
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
⁠I’m Marvel Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠
 Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and  finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠
 ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private WhatsApp group. Send me a request by email
✅ ⁠ email⁠ - contact@wholesomecounselling.com
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional
 
TRANSCRRIPT
Have you ever been sitting at your desk—maybe it’s a high-paying job, a role everyone says you’re 'lucky' to have—and felt a weird, nagging itch in your soul? Not because the job is bad, but because it feels... small? Like you’re wearing shoes two sizes too tight?
That is what I call Holy Frustration. In your 30s and 40s, society expects you to be 'settled.' But God often uses this season for a Divine Pivot. In this episode we’re talking about why you aren't ungrateful for wanting more, why AI isn't going to take your 'calling,' and how I went from a 'safe' role to a 'God-ordained' career in Australia. If you’re feeling stagnant, this episode is your permission slip to move."
 
[03:30 - 07:00] THE DATA: The Myth of the "One Career"
"Let’s look at the facts because I want your mind to be as sharp as your spirit.
The Stat: Did you know the average person now changes careers 5 to 7 times in their lifetime? We aren't in the 1950s anymore. With the advent of AI, technical skills are being automated, but human empathy, discernment, and counsel are becoming the world's most valuable currencies.
 
The Motherhood Factor: There is a massive shift that happens when we have babies. Research shows that motherhood often triggers a 'Values Re-evaluation.' Suddenly, the 9-to-5 grind doesn't just feel tiring—it feels expensive. It costs you time with your 'First Ministry': your family.
I was there. I had a 'good' job, but my heart was at home. I wanted to nurture my baby. I thought, 'If I say I’m unhappy, I’ll sound ungrateful.' Listen to me: Wanting a life that fits your family isn't 'lazy'—it’s stewardship. (Hey, if you're loving this vibe, hit that share button right now. We’re going deep this season and I don’t want you to miss the portal!)"
 
[07:00 - 11:30] THE WARFARE: The Spirit of Stagnation
"When you decide to pivot, the enemy doesn't send a monster; he sends a whisper. He whispers the Spirit of Stagnation. He tells you: 'It’s too late. You’re too old. You’ve invested too much in this degree to start over.' This is a lie from the pit.
Hold onto Galatians 1:15-17. Paul says, 'But when God, who set me apart from my mother’s womb and called me by his grace, was pleased to reveal his Son in me so that I might preach him among the Gentiles, my immediate response was not to consult any human being.' Paul didn't ask for a consensus. He didn't negotiate his instructions with men. He ran. When God gives you a blueprint for a new season, stop asking for permission from people who are still comfortable being stuck."
 
[11:30 - 15:00] THE TRANSITION
God has a plan for every season. Your job isn't to figure out the next ten years; your job is to listen, hear, and obey for the next ten minutes.
The Wisdom Key: While Paul didn't consult flesh and blood for validation, we are told that 'in the multitude of counsellors there is safety' (Proverbs 11:14). You need wise counsel to navigate the 'how.' That’s why I do what I do. I provide Clarity of Purpose Coaching to help you distinguish between a 'good idea' and a 'God instruction.'"
 
[15:00 - 18:00] CONCLUSION: Your Next Step
"If you are sitting in that 'Holy Frustration' right now, I want you to know you deserve the change God is whispering about.
Resources for your Journey:
Read: If you’re healing from the 'stagnation' of the past, grab my book, 'Beyond the Hurt.' It’s a roadmap for moving past the pain of old seasons so you can embrace the new. 
Coach: If you need that safety and strategy to pivot your career, book a Clarity Session with me. Let’s get you out of the 'stuck' and into the 'God-ordained.'
Guest Call: I want to hear your pivot stories! If you’ve experienced a Divine Pivot and want to be a guest on the show, send me a mail at contact@ wholesomecounselling.com. Let’s inspire this community together.
Closing: Your family is a priority. Your peace is a priority. Your calling is non-negotiable.
Stay beautiful. Stay confident. And stay prayed up and I’ll see you in the next season."
 
TAGS
#DivinePivot #PurposeOverComfort #GodsTiming #CareerChange #FaithForward, #CareerTransformation, #FaithJourney, #PurposeDrivenLife, #SpiritualGrowth, #LifePivot, #DivineGuidance, #EmpowermentJourney, #NewBeginnings, #OvercomingStagnation, #InspiredLiving

EP. 50| How I Traded My "Hustle" for a Fast (And Got 10 Years of Results)

Fatigue and mental fog isn’t random — it’s often a spiritual heaviness trying to slow you down.When you fast, you’re not just detoxing your body; you’re clearing the signal.Your mind sharpens. Your spirit aligns. Your next move becomes clear.Fasting shapes who you become — focused, spiritually alert, moving with speed, and grounded in your God-given calling. In this episode, I shared more personal experiences influenced by this divine practice - fasting. I hope this episode Blesses
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
⁠I’m Marvel Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠
 Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and  finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠
 ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private WhatsApp group. Send me a request by email
✅ ⁠ email⁠ - contact@wholesomecounselling.com
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional
 
TRANSCRIPT
We live in a culture that worships the 'grind.' We’ve been told that if we aren’t exhausted, we aren’t working hard enough. But have you noticed that even after a three-week vacation, you’re still tired? That’s because your soul is hungry, not just your body.
In this episode, I’m showing you why skipping a meal for God gives you more explosive energy than a month in the Maldives. We’re talking about The Fasted Life. This isn't a diet; it’s a spiritual bypass of the hustle. I want to show you how to get results with minimal effort—what the world calls a 'soft life,' but we call 'The Physics of Favor.'"
 THE THEOLOGY: Portals & The Power of 1st Fruits
"right now in January, We are standing in a Spiritual Portal. In the Hebrew calendar and in spiritual law, the beginning of a season isn't just a date; it’s a gateway.
Think about Ezekiel 44:30—the first of all your first fruits belongs to the priests so that a blessing may rest on your household. When you give God the 'First' of your year through fasting, you aren't just 'waiting'—you are consecrating the entire year. Stop with the vision boards for a second. A vision board is limited by your imagination. But Ephesians 3:20 says God does 'exceedingly abundantly above all we ask or think.' Why would you settle for a board you made with a tired brain when you can enter a portal and receive a blueprint directly from the Architect?
The Physics of Clarity: Confusion is a time-thief. The devil uses 'lack of clarity' to make you waste resources. David didn't ask for a bigger army first; he said, 'Give me understanding, that I may live' (Psalm 119:144). Fasting is the lens-cleaner for your soul."
MY STORY: The "Clumsy Mum" & The Prayer Watch
"Back in 2013, I was a 'clumsy, tired mum.' I had a 12-month-old, a transitioning body, and I felt like I was drowning. When my church started a fast, I was terrified. I used to think fasting was a punishment—headaches, dizziness, the works.
But I surrendered. I moved from 'performing' a fast to 'living' a fast.
The Result: I thought I wanted to launch a local radio show. Exactly doing and speaking on issues that affect Christian women, I had it all planned out, the list of guests, professionals in psychology, gynaecology relevant practitioners, small thinking. While fasting, the Holy Spirit hijacked my plans.  A mentor advises me to 'Go back to school and get   the Counselling degrees. So, I can become an expert myself' because how many guest can I feature for a whole year, it wasn't sustainable.  I had an English degree—I was happy in teaching, marketing and sales! But God knew the Psychotherapist version of me was the one He needed for this season. So I enrolled, it took about 2 years to complete my master’s degree.
The Prayer Watch: I started a routine. 9:00 AM every morning at the university lagoon front. I wasn't just 'sitting'; I was an intercessor on watch. I would pray for about one hour.
Research Insight: Science calls this 'Autophagy'—where your body cleans out broken cells. But spiritually, it’s 'Soul-Autophagy.' God was cleaning out my 'clumsy' identity and replacing it with 'divine acceleration.' I ended up with the highest GPA in my class while raising toddlers and traveling. Your brain on a fast isn't starving; it's tuning."
 THE "AUSTRALIA MIRACLE": Doors You Didn’t Knock On
"Listen to me, You don't have to 'network' your way to the top when you 'altar' your way there.
While I was at uny, I met a professor. Out of nowhere,  he starts mapping out a path to Australia for me. He guided me through the skilled migrant process. In about 6 months!—our application was successful and we relocated. I didn't know anyone in Australia. 
This is Romans 8:26 in action. When you pray in tongues while fasted, the Spirit intercedes with 'wordless groans.' You are literally speaking the 'Yes' into your future before you even get there. Those trips I mentioned before in my previous episode? All-expenses paid. I didn't knock. The door just swung open.
The Intercessor's Band: God is calling a 'Band of Intercessors.' He is looking for women who will say, 'I will stand on the wall for my family, my career, and my generation.' Are you an integral part of what He is doing, or are you just a spectator? Spectators eat; Intercessors feast on the Word."
THE STRATEGY: Warfare & Wellness
"How do you survive the fast in a burnout culture? You need a strategy:
The Digital Fast: You cannot hear God if you are constantly hearing the 'Accuser of the Brethren' through your Instagram or TikTok feed. Silence the comparison.
Hydrate & Move: I used juice to keep my brain fueled, especially as a mum. And yes—exercise! Even a 20-minute run or walk. It tells your body that you are in control, not your stomach. It boosts your physical health and clears the 'fasting fog.'
Replace, Don't Just Remove: If you take out food but don't add prayer, you’re just on a diet. Use your lunch break for the 'Prayer Watch.'
The "Soft Life" Secret: In Nigeria, we manage our data and battery life because we know electricity-power is limited. Apply that to your energy. Stop wasting your spiritual 'battery' on unnecessary chatting.
The Pro-Tip: Don't start with your 'shopping list' of prayer points. You don't even know what you truly want yet! Spend the first few days just saying, 'Lord, what is Your will?'"
CONCLUSION: The Call to the Altar
"Fasting changed me from 'clumsy and tired' to 'clear and thriving.' It took me across oceans and into rooms I wasn't 'qualified' for. Have you read my debut book, beyond the hurt, get your copy, it's a steal. I wrote so many real life experiences and are inspiring.
If you’re tired of the hustle, I’m inviting you to the Altar. God’s plans for you this year will blow your mind, but you have to be 'tuned in' to hear the frequency.
 Are you joining the Band of Intercessors this month? Tell me in the comments—what is the one 'big' door you’re asking God to swing open?
Share this with a sister who needs a 'Soft Life' upgrade. Until next time—Stay beautiful. Stay confident. And stay prayed up.
 
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EP. 49| Why Fasting & Prayer Changed Everything For Me.

I’m going to be completely real with you—there was a version of my life where I felt like I was running a race on a treadmill. I was working hard, I was praying, and fasting felt like punishment. Everything changed when I stopped trying to 'hustle' my way into my future and started fasting my way into it.
I’m pulling back the curtain on my personal journals to show you how fasting and prayer changed everything for me— and how it can do the same for you.
I hope this episode blesses you.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
⁠I’m Marvel Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠
 Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and  finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠
 ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private WhatsApp group. Send me a request by email
✅ ⁠ email⁠ - contact@wholesomecounselling.com
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
I used to think I was the only one who felt this way... that fasting was a punishment.
Back in 2013, I understood the theory of fasting. I knew the benefits. But a consistent routine? That wasn't me. When I tried to fast, I performed woefully.
My head ached, I felt dizzy, and honestly, it felt like I was being punished. So, I stopped.
 
But then, my Pastor announced a new fasting regimen for our church. My heart actually sank. My youngest baby was only 12 months old, and my body was still transitioning. But I was determined. I had heard about the physical benefits, but I was hungry for the spiritual ones.
 
I jumped in. And poof! My life transformed. This became my introduction to this dedicated  lifestyle.
 
In this episode I’m sharing how fasting took me from a clumsy, tired mum to a travel journalist,  top-tier student and today a psychotherapist, and the exact techniques I used to survive the process.
 
POINT 1: CLARITY OF PURPOSE
The first thing fasting gave me was divine direction. At the time, I thought I wanted to launch a radio program. I was thinking locally.
But as I fasted, God’s imagination took over mine. Through the Holy Spirit, I felt a pull to go back to university for a Post graduate in Guidance and counselling then a Master's in Counselling. My first degree was in English Language, and I was happy with the opportunities it offered me including teaching, marketing and  sales but God knew the work I am doing today required that degree.
 
I always say I 'stumbled' into my career, but the truth is, I fasted and prayed into it. Fasting gives you eyes to see the path God has already paved for you.
 
POINT 2: DOORS YOU DIDN’T EVEN KNOCK ON
"Fasting opens your inner eyes and then opens physical doors.
While I was finishing my university assignments, I got a random phone call. A family friend who founded a travel magazine had an invitation for an all-expenses-paid safari tour in another country. He couldn’t go, and he asked if I would represent the magazine as a destination reporter.
 
I told him I couldn't afford it. He said, 'Everything is paid for. Just bring yourself.'
And that trip led to another then another, so for years, I became a travel journalist, visiting countries I never dreamed of. The Holy Spirit knows what you will enjoy! When you fast and speak in tongues, the Spirit of God intercedes for you.
As it says in Romans 8:26, 'the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.' A fasted life releases blessings that are hanging over you in the spirit but are being hindered by powers of darkness. Remember what Jesus said? 'This kind goes out only by prayer and fasting.'"
 
POINT 3: DIVINE ACADEMIC ACCELERATION
"You would think a mum of two toddlers, working and traveling, would struggle in Graduate School.
But during that season of fasting, I had the highest GPA in my post-graduate class. I was no longer clumsy or easily tired. I had mental clarity and high memory recollection. I honestly didn't know how I did it all—but looking back, I see it so clearly now: it was by God's grace and through divine favor with my professors, that I was able to finish so strong.
 
I even met an old classmate at a bank who introduced me to high-yield bonds—opportunities I didn't even know existed were literally walking up to me."
 
THE COPING STRATEGIES: HOW TO SURVIVE THE FAST
"If you want to start this, you need a strategy. Here is how I managed the fatigue and the cravings:
Hydrate Smart: I drank lots of juice. It kept my energy up and stopped the dizziness. If you can do water only, great. If not, use juice to keep your brain fueled.
Prayer is the Fuel: Fasting without prayer is just a 'starvation diet.' I made sure I had active times to study the bible and pray in the Holy Ghost.
The Digital Fast: I cut off movies, social media, and unnecessary chatting. 
Manage the Headache: Headaches usually come from caffeine withdrawal or dehydration. Ease into it, drink water, and get proper rest.
Listen to Your Body: Sleep when you can. Rested discernment is sharper than exhausted prayer.
Fellowship with other believers:" Engaged with other Christians in prayer meetings in my church/community.
CONCLUSION
"Fasting is not about 'earning' God's love. It’s about tuning your frequency to His station. It changed my life from 'clumsy and tired' to 'clear and thriving.'
 
If this inspired you, subscribe and share this. I want to hear in the comments—are you ready to start a fasting routine this month?
Until the next episode—Stay beautiful. Stay confident. And stay prayed up.
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EP. 48| How To Spot Spiritual Manipulation in Friendship and Dating

Feeling pressured in relationship is a sign to take a step back! Remember the six-month rule—observe character over charisma. Beware of the dangers of familiar spirits, which can manifest in repeated patterns of unhealthy relationships.  I hope this episode blesses you.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠
 Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and  finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠
 ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠
✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ contact@wholesomecounselling.com
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and Couple counselling. I support high-achieving Christians in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. 
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#RedFlags #SelfCare #Discernment #Friendship #MentalHealth #Growth #Podcast #Relationships  
TRANSCRIPT
In this episode, I want to gently but clearly talk to you about discernment, because when you are sincerely seeking to do God’s will for your life, you need to understand this:
God sends people into your life.And the enemy also sends people into your life.
Both can look convincing at first.
 
Dating Is Not Harmless 
Dating isn’t neutral.Friendship isn’t always innocent.Connection isn’t automatically safe.
When you’re longing for love — especially if you’ve experienced rejection, neglect, or emotional wounds — you are more vulnerable than you realise. That doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human.
But vulnerability without discernment can be dangerous.
Scripture tells us to test the spirits. Not every connection is divine. Not every open door is God. And not every person who sounds spiritual is safe.
Some people have unknowingly befriended — and even dated — individuals practising witchcraft, manipulation, or spiritual control. Not because they were foolish… but because they were desperate.
And desperation is a pull.
 
Charisma Is Not Character
Let me say this clearly, especially for my Gen Z sisters:
Gifts are loud. Character is quiet.
You can fall in love with charisma.You can be impressed by someone’s prophetic gifting.You can be drawn to someone who prays powerfully, speaks accurately, or seems spiritually “deep.”
They might tell you exactly what you’re going through.They might speak into your season with precision.They might call out things no one else knows.
Here’s the wisdom part:
Gifting reveals ability. Character reveals safety.
And character takes time to observe.
 
The 6-Month Rule (this will save you)
Here’s a secret I want you to write down.
When you meet someone — whether as a friend or potential spouse — give the relationship at least six months.
Not six months of intensity.Six months of observation.
If they demonstrate prophetic attributes or spiritual insight:
Acknowledge it inwardly
Stay quiet outwardly
Don’t announce it
Don’t attach meaning too quickly
Time reveals patterns.Pressure exposes motives.Consistency tells the truth.
Most people who manipulate spiritually rely on urgency.God works through peace.
 
Pressure Is a Red Flag
Pressure can look subtle.
It can sound like:
constant, unasked-for texts
feeling monitored or micromanaged
guilt when you don’t respond quickly
emotional intensity before trust is built
That suffocated feeling?That’s not romance. That’s not God.
Healthy connection allows space.Secure love respects rhythm.Divine alignment never needs force.
If you feel pressure — detach gently. Breathe. Slow down.
 
Rest Is Protection
 If you are desperate for something, you are not ready for it yet.
Desperation clouds discernment.Rest sharpens it.
This season may be inviting you to surrender — not your desire for marriage, but the urgency around it.
Say, “God, I give You my timeline.”
When you enter rest, you stop grasping.When you stop grasping, you can see clearly.
 
You Cannot Do This Alone
And let me be very honest here — you cannot do any of this in your own strength.
That’s why prayer is not optional this year.
Not rushed prayer.Not anxious prayer.But surrendered prayer.
Let this be your anchor prayer:
“Lord, Your kingdom come.Your will be done — in my love life, my friendships, my future.”
When you are preoccupied with your purpose, God handles your protection.When you focus on God’s will, alignment follows.
 
If this episode resonated, I want to invite you to go deeper.
My book, Beyond the Hurt, is for women who are healing emotionally and learning how to love from a place of wholeness, not wounds. You’ll find the link in the description.
And if you’re watching this on YouTube — please subscribe.If you’re listening on podcast — follow, rate, and share this episode with a sister who needs discernment right now.
Your support keeps this work going.
 
 
Until the next episode —Stay beautiful.Stay confident.And stay prayed up.
 

EP. 47| The Invisible Warfare For Your Marriage

The devil hates families.He hates covenant.He hates stability, safety, and generational healing.
Does it seem like every conversation leads to an explosion? Let’s discuss the escalation loop that can drain the joy out of your marriage and learn how to identify and combat the real enemy!
TRANSCRIPT
The Invisible Fight for Your Marriage
Theme: Spiritual Warfare in MarriageScripture Focus: Ephesians 6:12, 2 Corinthians 10:4
INTRODUCTION — The Wake-Up Call
You’ve read every marriage book on the shelf.You’ve sat on the counsellor’s couch until you’re emotionally exhausted.You’ve softened your tone. You’ve stopped asking for too much.You’ve prayed, you’ve waited, you’ve shrunk yourself to keep the peace…And yet — the house still feels like it’s on fire.
Let me ask you something gently, but honestly.
What if you’re not fighting your husband at all?What if the exhaustion you feel isn’t relational failure — but spiritual resistance?
What if you’re standing in a war room, trying to fight a spirit with a spreadsheet…Using communication tools for a battle that requires spiritual authority?
Today, we’re talking about the invisible fight for your marriage.This episode is not about blaming your spouse.It’s about waking up discernment.It’s about calling intercessors back to their posts.
Before we go any further — if this episode already feels like it’s reading your mail, pause for a second.Hit subscribe, leave a comment telling me where you’re listening/reading from, and share this with a sister who’s quietly fighting for her home.
This message needs to reach the women who are tired of surface answers.
BODY POINT 1 — The Three-Part Human & the Three-Part Marriage
To understand why your marriage feels like a battlefield, we need to go back to foundation. " you have to understand who you are. As an African woman, this concept is second nature to me, and the Bible confirms it: Man is essentially a spirit, who has a soul, and lives in a body.
Scripture is clear — you are a spirit, you have a soul, and you live in a body.
And your marriage reflects that same three-part design.
1️⃣ The Physical Layer
This is what most couples focus on:
Bills
Chores
Sex
Parenting logistics
Who did what, who didn’t
This is Important — but not central.
2️⃣ The Soul Layer
This is where therapy usually sits:
Emotions
Communication styles
Attachment patterns
Personality clashes
Still important — but still not the root.
3️⃣ The Spiritual Layer
This is the foundation of one flesh.This is where covenant lives.This is where unity is either protected or attacked.
Now pay attention to what I’m about to say, in fact write this down:
If you only work on behaviour and emotions, but ignore the spiritual layer, you leave the most important door wide open.
You can regulate your tone.You can read your attachment style.You can learn conflict scripts.
But if your marriage is under spiritual pressure — behavioural change alone won’t hold.
You end up trying to fix a spiritual leak with emotional duct tape.
And eventually… it fails.
III. BODY POINT 2 — The Red Flags of Spiritual Warfare
The devil hates families.He hates covenant.He hates stability, safety, and generational healing.
And no — saying “I do” does not make you immune.
If anything, marriage puts a target on your back.
Lets move forward quickly, How do you know if you are under spiritual warfare? :
here are four signs that what you’re facing is more than a personality clash:
🚩 1. The Escalation Loop
Simple conversations escalates quickly or explode.
For instance, You start talking about dishes…And suddenly you’re fighting about respect, worth, and past wounds.
Afterwards You walk away exhausted, feeling guilt or ashamed, and emotionally bruised because of what you said or how you behaved — every time.
🚩 2. Another sign is The Counselling Wall
When You’ve done therapy or couple counselling. and You’ve implemented strategies.But the atmosphere in your home doesn’t shift. instead YOUR Insight increases —  but your intimacy doesn’t.
🚩sign no 3. Strategy Fatigue
When You’ve changed your tone.for example You’ve stopped “nagging.”You’ve tried silence, softness, and self-improvement. Yet the home still feels heavy.
🚩sign no 4. The Blind Spot
Everyone else can see a clear issue in your spouse — but he genuinely cannot.
Or he Minimises it. Deflects or Spiritual numbness.
That’s often not stubbornness — it’s a stronghold.
Let me say this clearly:
When common sense fails and counselling stalls, you are not dealing with immaturity.You are dealing with spiritual resistance.
BODY POINT 3 —
Let me introduce you to Your New Job Description: Intercessor
It is time to stop discussing your marriage problems with every 'well-meaning' person. Unless that person is ready to go into the trenches of midnight prayer and fasting with you, they are just noise. Your friends, family can't save your marriage. Your bestie can't save your marriage. Only the supernatural power of God can.
This is where the shift happens.
You must stop outsourcing spiritual authority. But if you want just empathy you can continue to give people access to your struggle without any change.
Scripture says:
“The weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God for the pulling down of strongholds.” — 2 Corinthians 10:4
Here’s what wisdom looks like now:
You observe patterns
You track recurring sore points
You identify access points
Is it finances?Control?In-laws?Sexual intimacy?Power struggles?
Once you identify the access point, you stop arguing with your spouse — and start addressing the enemy.
That may look like:
Midnight prayer
Fasting
Scripture declarations
Silence instead of reactions.
When the spiritual pressure breaks, communication will starts working again.The veil will lift.Therapy will makes sense again.
CONCLUSION — Move in Silence & Power
If divorce runs in your family line — don’t ignore it.Patterns repeat until someone interrupts them.
Once you identify it, you stop arguing with your husband and you start arguing with the enemy in the spirit. You wake up at midnight. You fast. You intercede.
When you break the spiritual deadlock through prayer, suddenly—boom!—you start 'hearing' each other again. The counseling finally starts to make sense because the veil has been lifted."
CONCLUSION: Move in Silence & Power
"Don't wait until your marriage becomes another statistic in your family tree. If your parents divorced, or your spouse's parents divorced, recognize that 'generational pattern' and cut it off at the root.
You are the gatekeeper of your home. You have the authority to invite the supernatural into your space and clear out the confusion.
Let me leave you with this:
Recognise that your husband is a spirit first
Discern the signs of warfare
Close unnecessary mouths
Open your heart to God
Some battles are not loud.Some victories are won quietly.
your marriage is worth the fight — but only if you use the right weapons.
Drop a comment if this resonated and see you in the next episode. Until then stay confident. Stay beautiful. Stay prayed up.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠
 Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and  finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠
 ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠
✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ contact@wholesomecounselling.com
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and Couple counselling. I support high-achieving Christians in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
 
 

EP. 46| NEW YEAR. NEW SPIRIT. DON'T JUST SLIDE INTO 2026

New seasons are SPIRITUAL markers. As we step into 2026, let’s treat each transition with the respect it deserves. This year practice the following in your journey with God’s will before diving into your goals and vision boards! I hope this episode blesses you 
What’s your intention for this year? Let’s chat in the comments! 
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
⁠I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi⁠, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat ⁠⁠
 Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get ⁠free resources⁠ for guidance and healing from past wounds and  finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. ⁠E-book ⁠ and ⁠Paper back⁠
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: ⁠Book Here⁠
 ✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private ⁠face book group ⁠
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. ⁠https://marveladeyemi.com.au/⁠
✅ Send me an⁠ email⁠ contact@wholesomecounselling.com
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
 📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
 
Podcast Script: Starting 2026 Strong — A Spirit-Led Blueprint for a New Season
Hey family.Happy 2026.We actually made it.
And before we rush into goals, plans, or pressure… I want to pause right here and ask you something gently:
Did you just slide into this year…or did you transition?
Because there is a difference.
Waking up on January 1st is automatic.But crossing over intentionally—that’s spiritual.
This is not just a calendar change.This is a new season with God.A unique 12-month assignment.And if we’re not careful, 2026 can easily become 2025 part two.
Not this time.
Today, I want to give you a simple, spirit-led blueprint to start this year strong—emotionally, spiritually, and practically.
No pressure.No hype.Just alignment.
Point 1: Recognise the Power of a New Season
Let me start here.
I really hope you didn’t take this transition lightly.
Because in the spiritual realm, new seasons matter.
As Christians, we sometimes treat new months, birthdays, anniversaries, or even a new year like,“Oh… it’s just another day.”
But it’s not.
In Scripture, seasons, times, and transitions are significant.They are markers.They are portals.They are moments of reset and realignment.
And what’s interesting is this:People who aren’t even Christian understand this.
They honour first days.They journal on birthdays.They set intentions on anniversaries.They don’t treat milestones casually.
So why should we?
This year, I want you to become intentional with transitions.
When a new month starts—pause and pray.When it’s your birthday—don’t just celebrate, consecrate.When a new season begins—acknowledge it spiritually.
Don’t just let life happen to you.Commence it with authority.
Say,“God, I recognise this as a new season. I step into it consciously, not casually.”
That alone will shift how you experience 2026.
Point 2: Seek God’s Will Before You Set Goals
Now let’s talk about goals—because I know that’s where everyone’s mind is.
Vision boards.Plans.Big dreams.
And I love ambition.But the posture for this year is different.
Before you set goals…seek the face of God.
The prayer for 2026 is simple:
“Thy Kingdom come. Thy will be done.”
Not my will.Not my timeline.Not my ego.
God, choose for me.
Choose my inheritance.Guide me into the best part of my life.Close doors I’m emotionally attached to.Open doors I don’t even know to knock on.
Because let’s be honest—most New Year’s resolutions don’t survive the first quarter.
Not because people are lazy,but because willpower has limits.
Willpower can get you started.It can’t sustain you.
Scripture says,
“It is not of him who runs, but of God who gives the increase.”
This year, you are not running on discipline alone.You’re running on Holy Spirit power.
This is the year to be Spirit-led, not stress-led.Obedience-led, not pressure-led.
If God didn’t breathe on it, you don’t want it—no matter how good it looks on paper.
Point 3: Make Prayer Part of Your Job Description
Now this one is big.
In 2026, prayer is not optional.It’s not a backup plan.It’s not a “when things go wrong” response.
Prayer is part of your job description.
Just like work.Just like exercise.Just like daily routines.
You schedule meetings—schedule prayer.You protect gym time—protect time with God.
A consistent prayer life will:• save you from unnecessary heartbreak• clear confusion before it becomes chaos• sharpen your discernment• and invite the supernatural into ordinary days
Prayer aligns you before life demands from you.
And yes—include fasting.
I don’t need to overteach this.You already know fasting does what words alone can’t do.
It quiets the flesh.It sharpens the spirit.It breaks cycles.It resets priorities.
Even simple, intentional fasting creates spiritual clarity.
Closing: Move in Silence
And finally… this is the energy for 2026.
Move in silence.
This is not the year to announce everything early.Not every plan needs an audience.Not every process needs to be posted.
Let results speak.
Keep the vision between you and God until it can stand on its own.
Silence is not hiding.It’s protection.
Some things grow best away from noise.
Outro
As you step into 2026, remember this: don’t rush past transitions—honour them. Treat new seasons with intention, because awareness changes outcomes. Before you chase goals or pressure yourself with expectations, pause and let God set the direction. When His will leads, effort becomes lighter and purpose becomes clearer. And above all, make your connection with God non-negotiable. A consistent prayer life will steady you, protect you, and open doors you don’t have to force.
This is also the year to move wisely—quietly, confidently, and anchored in God. Not everything needs to be shared early. Let growth happen privately and let results speak loudly in time.
Stay aligned. Stay prayerful. Stay grounded.This year is unfolding exactly as it should.
I’ll see you in the next episode 🤍
 
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EP. 45| STOP PANICKING. THIS WILL CHANGE HOW YOU SEE YOUR SITUATION

If you’re on holidays right now, save this episode for later—it’s one you’ll want to come back to when you need grounding, reassurance, and hope.
In times of crisis, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and lost—especially when it feels like you’ve run out of options. In this episode, we explore fear, faith, and God’s provision, drawing on powerful biblical stories to show how a shift in perspective can reveal the help that has been there all along.
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TRANSCRIPT
[0:00 - 1:30] THE PROPHETIC OPENING
Host: "Welcome back. Today, I’m speaking to the person who feels like they’ve reached the end of their supply. You’re in a desert season, and the water in your bottle has run out. You’re looking at your dreams, your business, or your children, and you’re whispering, 'I can’t watch this die.'
As your coach and as a student of the Word, I want to tell you: The provision you are crying for isn't coming—it’s already there. You just can’t see it yet. Today, we’re looking at Hagar and Abraham to unlock the spiritual sight required to see your 'Well' and your 'Ram.'"
[1:30 - 4:30] SECTION 1: HAGAR – THE BLINDNESS OF PANIC (Genesis 21)
Host: "Let’s look at Hagar in Genesis 21. She’s cast out. She’s in the desert of Beersheba. The Bible says she tucked her son, Ishmael, under a bush because she couldn’t bear to watch him die. She was sobbing. She was in a state of total nervous system collapse—survival mode at its peak.
Prophetically, notice this: God hears the boy crying. He speaks to Hagar and says, 'What is the matter, Hagar? Do not be afraid.' And then, Genesis 21:19 says, 'Then God opened her eyes and she saw a well of water.'
The Coaching Insight: The well didn't suddenly materialize out of thin air when she stopped crying. The well was likely there the whole time. But fear has a physiological and spiritual effect—it narrows your vision. Panic creates a 'scarcity blind spot.' You are so busy mourning the empty bottle in your hand that you cannot see the overflowing well at your feet.
Is God not providing, or are you just too afraid to look up? I prophecy over you today: Your eyes are being opened. The 'Well' in your desert is about to be revealed."
[4:30 - 7:30] SECTION 2: ABRAHAM – THE POSTURE OF FAITH (Genesis 22)
Host: "Now, let’s pivot to a different mountain. Genesis 22. Abraham is walking up Moriah with Isaac—the son he waited 25 years for. Isaac, being a smart kid, asks the million-dollar question: 'Father, the fire and wood are here, but where is the lamb?'
Abraham’s response is the ultimate masterclass in faith. He doesn't vent his anxiety. He doesn't complain about the 'unfairness' of the test. He says: 'God himself will provide the lamb for the burnt offering, my son.'
The Theological Depth: Abraham wasn't lying to Isaac; he was speaking from a place of 'Postured Faith.' He knew that the God who gave the promise was responsible for the provision. He walked all the way to the point of no return—he actually raised the knife—before the intervention happened.
And what happened? He looked up, and there, caught in a thicket, was a ram.
The Lesson: For Hagar, the provision was a Well (sustenance for the journey). For Abraham, the provision was a Ram (a substitute for the sacrifice). God provides exactly what the specific season requires. But both required the person to look up."
[7:30 - 9:00] THE PROPHETIC COACHING DEEP-DIVE
Host: "Here is the bridge between these two stories: Faith is the ability to stay regulated when the bottle is empty.
If you are a parent figure, like Abraham or Hagar, your children are watching your response to scarcity. Isaac learned how to trust God by watching Abraham stay steady. Ishmael survived because Hagar finally lifted her head.
Prophetically, I sense some of you are at 'the thicket.' You’ve done the work, you’ve obeyed the hard 'Yes,' and now you’re waiting for the Ram. Your instructions are simple:
Stop staring at the empty bottle. (The past supply).
Lift your eyes. (Shift your perspective).
Acknowledge that God is the owner of the Mountain. Abraham called that place Jehovah Jireh—The Lord Will See To It. He will see to your mortgage. He will see to your accreditation. He will see to your healing."
[9:00 - 10:00] CLOSING & DECLARATION
Host: "Before you go, I want you to make this declaration with me: 'My eyes are open. My fear is gone. My provision is present.'
If you’ve been blinded by the desert heat, I pray right now for a divine 'opening of the eyes.' May you see the well that has been sitting right beside you this whole time.
I’ll see you in the next episode. Move in faith, stay in peace, and remember—the Ram is already in the thicket. God bless."
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