Emotional Healing for Christian Women with Marvel Adeyemi | Psychotherapist.
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, guilt, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling Worthy, Beautiful, Confident, and Calm — and doing it with God by your side. That’s the healing we begin together. 📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: marveladeyemi.com.au 📌Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back 📌 On my website, download my free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
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Fatigue and mental fog isn’t random — it’s often a spiritual heaviness trying to slow you down.When you fast, you’re not just detoxing your body; you’re clearing the signal.Your mind sharpens. Your spirit aligns. Your next move becomes clear.Fasting shapes who you become — focused, spiritually alert, moving with speed, and grounded in your God-given calling. In this episode, I shared more personal experiences influenced by this divine practice - fasting. I hope this episode Blesses
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private WhatsApp group. Send me a request by email
✅ email - contact@wholesomecounselling.com
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional
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We live in a culture that worships the 'grind.' We’ve been told that if we aren’t exhausted, we aren’t working hard enough. But have you noticed that even after a three-week vacation, you’re still tired? That’s because your soul is hungry, not just your body.
In this episode, I’m showing you why skipping a meal for God gives you more explosive energy than a month in the Maldives. We’re talking about The Fasted Life. This isn't a diet; it’s a spiritual bypass of the hustle. I want to show you how to get results with minimal effort—what the world calls a 'soft life,' but we call 'The Physics of Favor.'"
THE THEOLOGY: Portals & The Power of 1st Fruits
"right now in January, We are standing in a Spiritual Portal. In the Hebrew calendar and in spiritual law, the beginning of a season isn't just a date; it’s a gateway.
Think about Ezekiel 44:30—the first of all your first fruits belongs to the priests so that a blessing may rest on your household. When you give God the 'First' of your year through fasting, you aren't just 'waiting'—you are consecrating the entire year. Stop with the vision boards for a second. A vision board is limited by your imagination. But Ephesians 3:20 says God does 'exceedingly abundantly above all we ask or think.' Why would you settle for a board you made with a tired brain when you can enter a portal and receive a blueprint directly from the Architect?
The Physics of Clarity: Confusion is a time-thief. The devil uses 'lack of clarity' to make you waste resources. David didn't ask for a bigger army first; he said, 'Give me understanding, that I may live' (Psalm 119:144). Fasting is the lens-cleaner for your soul."
MY STORY: The "Clumsy Mum" & The Prayer Watch
"Back in 2013, I was a 'clumsy, tired mum.' I had a 12-month-old, a transitioning body, and I felt like I was drowning. When my church started a fast, I was terrified. I used to think fasting was a punishment—headaches, dizziness, the works.
But I surrendered. I moved from 'performing' a fast to 'living' a fast.
The Result: I thought I wanted to launch a local radio show. Exactly doing and speaking on issues that affect Christian women, I had it all planned out, the list of guests, professionals in psychology, gynaecology relevant practitioners, small thinking. While fasting, the Holy Spirit hijacked my plans. A mentor advises me to 'Go back to school and get the Counselling degrees. So, I can become an expert myself' because how many guest can I feature for a whole year, it wasn't sustainable. I had an English degree—I was happy in teaching, marketing and sales! But God knew the Psychotherapist version of me was the one He needed for this season. So I enrolled, it took about 2 years to complete my master’s degree.
The Prayer Watch: I started a routine. 9:00 AM every morning at the university lagoon front. I wasn't just 'sitting'; I was an intercessor on watch. I would pray for about one hour.
Research Insight: Science calls this 'Autophagy'—where your body cleans out broken cells. But spiritually, it’s 'Soul-Autophagy.' God was cleaning out my 'clumsy' identity and replacing it with 'divine acceleration.' I ended up with the highest GPA in my class while raising toddlers and traveling. Your brain on a fast isn't starving; it's tuning."
THE "AUSTRALIA MIRACLE": Doors You Didn’t Knock On
"Listen to me, You don't have to 'network' your way to the top when you 'altar' your way there.
While I was at uny, I met a professor. Out of nowhere, he starts mapping out a path to Australia for me. He guided me through the skilled migrant process. In about 6 months!—our application was successful and we relocated. I didn't know anyone in Australia.
This is Romans 8:26 in action. When you pray in tongues while fasted, the Spirit intercedes with 'wordless groans.' You are literally speaking the 'Yes' into your future before you even get there. Those trips I mentioned before in my previous episode? All-expenses paid. I didn't knock. The door just swung open.
The Intercessor's Band: God is calling a 'Band of Intercessors.' He is looking for women who will say, 'I will stand on the wall for my family, my career, and my generation.' Are you an integral part of what He is doing, or are you just a spectator? Spectators eat; Intercessors feast on the Word."
THE STRATEGY: Warfare & Wellness
"How do you survive the fast in a burnout culture? You need a strategy:
The Digital Fast: You cannot hear God if you are constantly hearing the 'Accuser of the Brethren' through your Instagram or TikTok feed. Silence the comparison.
Hydrate & Move: I used juice to keep my brain fueled, especially as a mum. And yes—exercise! Even a 20-minute run or walk. It tells your body that you are in control, not your stomach. It boosts your physical health and clears the 'fasting fog.'
Replace, Don't Just Remove: If you take out food but don't add prayer, you’re just on a diet. Use your lunch break for the 'Prayer Watch.'
The "Soft Life" Secret: In Nigeria, we manage our data and battery life because we know electricity-power is limited. Apply that to your energy. Stop wasting your spiritual 'battery' on unnecessary chatting.
The Pro-Tip: Don't start with your 'shopping list' of prayer points. You don't even know what you truly want yet! Spend the first few days just saying, 'Lord, what is Your will?'"
CONCLUSION: The Call to the Altar
"Fasting changed me from 'clumsy and tired' to 'clear and thriving.' It took me across oceans and into rooms I wasn't 'qualified' for. Have you read my debut book, beyond the hurt, get your copy, it's a steal. I wrote so many real life experiences and are inspiring.
If you’re tired of the hustle, I’m inviting you to the Altar. God’s plans for you this year will blow your mind, but you have to be 'tuned in' to hear the frequency.
Are you joining the Band of Intercessors this month? Tell me in the comments—what is the one 'big' door you’re asking God to swing open?
Share this with a sister who needs a 'Soft Life' upgrade. Until next time—Stay beautiful. Stay confident. And stay prayed up.
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Tuesday Jan 27, 2026
Tuesday Jan 27, 2026
I’m going to be completely real with you—there was a version of my life where I felt like I was running a race on a treadmill. I was working hard, I was praying, and fasting felt like punishment. Everything changed when I stopped trying to 'hustle' my way into my future and started fasting my way into it.
I’m pulling back the curtain on my personal journals to show you how fasting and prayer changed everything for me— and how it can do the same for you.
I hope this episode blesses you.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private WhatsApp group. Send me a request by email
✅ email - contact@wholesomecounselling.com
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
I used to think I was the only one who felt this way... that fasting was a punishment.
Back in 2013, I understood the theory of fasting. I knew the benefits. But a consistent routine? That wasn't me. When I tried to fast, I performed woefully.
My head ached, I felt dizzy, and honestly, it felt like I was being punished. So, I stopped.
But then, my Pastor announced a new fasting regimen for our church. My heart actually sank. My youngest baby was only 12 months old, and my body was still transitioning. But I was determined. I had heard about the physical benefits, but I was hungry for the spiritual ones.
I jumped in. And poof! My life transformed. This became my introduction to this dedicated lifestyle.
In this episode I’m sharing how fasting took me from a clumsy, tired mum to a travel journalist, top-tier student and today a psychotherapist, and the exact techniques I used to survive the process.
POINT 1: CLARITY OF PURPOSE
The first thing fasting gave me was divine direction. At the time, I thought I wanted to launch a radio program. I was thinking locally.
But as I fasted, God’s imagination took over mine. Through the Holy Spirit, I felt a pull to go back to university for a Post graduate in Guidance and counselling then a Master's in Counselling. My first degree was in English Language, and I was happy with the opportunities it offered me including teaching, marketing and sales but God knew the work I am doing today required that degree.
I always say I 'stumbled' into my career, but the truth is, I fasted and prayed into it. Fasting gives you eyes to see the path God has already paved for you.
POINT 2: DOORS YOU DIDN’T EVEN KNOCK ON
"Fasting opens your inner eyes and then opens physical doors.
While I was finishing my university assignments, I got a random phone call. A family friend who founded a travel magazine had an invitation for an all-expenses-paid safari tour in another country. He couldn’t go, and he asked if I would represent the magazine as a destination reporter.
I told him I couldn't afford it. He said, 'Everything is paid for. Just bring yourself.'
And that trip led to another then another, so for years, I became a travel journalist, visiting countries I never dreamed of. The Holy Spirit knows what you will enjoy! When you fast and speak in tongues, the Spirit of God intercedes for you.
As it says in Romans 8:26, 'the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.' A fasted life releases blessings that are hanging over you in the spirit but are being hindered by powers of darkness. Remember what Jesus said? 'This kind goes out only by prayer and fasting.'"
POINT 3: DIVINE ACADEMIC ACCELERATION
"You would think a mum of two toddlers, working and traveling, would struggle in Graduate School.
But during that season of fasting, I had the highest GPA in my post-graduate class. I was no longer clumsy or easily tired. I had mental clarity and high memory recollection. I honestly didn't know how I did it all—but looking back, I see it so clearly now: it was by God's grace and through divine favor with my professors, that I was able to finish so strong.
I even met an old classmate at a bank who introduced me to high-yield bonds—opportunities I didn't even know existed were literally walking up to me."
THE COPING STRATEGIES: HOW TO SURVIVE THE FAST
"If you want to start this, you need a strategy. Here is how I managed the fatigue and the cravings:
Hydrate Smart: I drank lots of juice. It kept my energy up and stopped the dizziness. If you can do water only, great. If not, use juice to keep your brain fueled.
Prayer is the Fuel: Fasting without prayer is just a 'starvation diet.' I made sure I had active times to study the bible and pray in the Holy Ghost.
The Digital Fast: I cut off movies, social media, and unnecessary chatting.
Manage the Headache: Headaches usually come from caffeine withdrawal or dehydration. Ease into it, drink water, and get proper rest.
Listen to Your Body: Sleep when you can. Rested discernment is sharper than exhausted prayer.
Fellowship with other believers:" Engaged with other Christians in prayer meetings in my church/community.
CONCLUSION
"Fasting is not about 'earning' God's love. It’s about tuning your frequency to His station. It changed my life from 'clumsy and tired' to 'clear and thriving.'
If this inspired you, subscribe and share this. I want to hear in the comments—are you ready to start a fasting routine this month?
Until the next episode—Stay beautiful. Stay confident. And stay prayed up.
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Tuesday Jan 20, 2026
Tuesday Jan 20, 2026
Feeling pressured in relationship is a sign to take a step back! Remember the six-month rule—observe character over charisma. Beware of the dangers of familiar spirits, which can manifest in repeated patterns of unhealthy relationships. I hope this episode blesses you.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email contact@wholesomecounselling.com
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and Couple counselling. I support high-achieving Christians in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
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TRANSCRIPT
In this episode, I want to gently but clearly talk to you about discernment, because when you are sincerely seeking to do God’s will for your life, you need to understand this:
God sends people into your life.And the enemy also sends people into your life.
Both can look convincing at first.
Dating Is Not Harmless
Dating isn’t neutral.Friendship isn’t always innocent.Connection isn’t automatically safe.
When you’re longing for love — especially if you’ve experienced rejection, neglect, or emotional wounds — you are more vulnerable than you realise. That doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human.
But vulnerability without discernment can be dangerous.
Scripture tells us to test the spirits. Not every connection is divine. Not every open door is God. And not every person who sounds spiritual is safe.
Some people have unknowingly befriended — and even dated — individuals practising witchcraft, manipulation, or spiritual control. Not because they were foolish… but because they were desperate.
And desperation is a pull.
Charisma Is Not Character
Let me say this clearly, especially for my Gen Z sisters:
Gifts are loud. Character is quiet.
You can fall in love with charisma.You can be impressed by someone’s prophetic gifting.You can be drawn to someone who prays powerfully, speaks accurately, or seems spiritually “deep.”
They might tell you exactly what you’re going through.They might speak into your season with precision.They might call out things no one else knows.
Here’s the wisdom part:
Gifting reveals ability. Character reveals safety.
And character takes time to observe.
The 6-Month Rule (this will save you)
Here’s a secret I want you to write down.
When you meet someone — whether as a friend or potential spouse — give the relationship at least six months.
Not six months of intensity.Six months of observation.
If they demonstrate prophetic attributes or spiritual insight:
Acknowledge it inwardly
Stay quiet outwardly
Don’t announce it
Don’t attach meaning too quickly
Time reveals patterns.Pressure exposes motives.Consistency tells the truth.
Most people who manipulate spiritually rely on urgency.God works through peace.
Pressure Is a Red Flag
Pressure can look subtle.
It can sound like:
constant, unasked-for texts
feeling monitored or micromanaged
guilt when you don’t respond quickly
emotional intensity before trust is built
That suffocated feeling?That’s not romance. That’s not God.
Healthy connection allows space.Secure love respects rhythm.Divine alignment never needs force.
If you feel pressure — detach gently. Breathe. Slow down.
Rest Is Protection
If you are desperate for something, you are not ready for it yet.
Desperation clouds discernment.Rest sharpens it.
This season may be inviting you to surrender — not your desire for marriage, but the urgency around it.
Say, “God, I give You my timeline.”
When you enter rest, you stop grasping.When you stop grasping, you can see clearly.
You Cannot Do This Alone
And let me be very honest here — you cannot do any of this in your own strength.
That’s why prayer is not optional this year.
Not rushed prayer.Not anxious prayer.But surrendered prayer.
Let this be your anchor prayer:
“Lord, Your kingdom come.Your will be done — in my love life, my friendships, my future.”
When you are preoccupied with your purpose, God handles your protection.When you focus on God’s will, alignment follows.
If this episode resonated, I want to invite you to go deeper.
My book, Beyond the Hurt, is for women who are healing emotionally and learning how to love from a place of wholeness, not wounds. You’ll find the link in the description.
And if you’re watching this on YouTube — please subscribe.If you’re listening on podcast — follow, rate, and share this episode with a sister who needs discernment right now.
Your support keeps this work going.
Until the next episode —Stay beautiful.Stay confident.And stay prayed up.
Tuesday Jan 13, 2026
Tuesday Jan 13, 2026
The devil hates families.He hates covenant.He hates stability, safety, and generational healing.
Does it seem like every conversation leads to an explosion? Let’s discuss the escalation loop that can drain the joy out of your marriage and learn how to identify and combat the real enemy!
TRANSCRIPT
The Invisible Fight for Your Marriage
Theme: Spiritual Warfare in MarriageScripture Focus: Ephesians 6:12, 2 Corinthians 10:4
INTRODUCTION — The Wake-Up Call
You’ve read every marriage book on the shelf.You’ve sat on the counsellor’s couch until you’re emotionally exhausted.You’ve softened your tone. You’ve stopped asking for too much.You’ve prayed, you’ve waited, you’ve shrunk yourself to keep the peace…And yet — the house still feels like it’s on fire.
Let me ask you something gently, but honestly.
What if you’re not fighting your husband at all?What if the exhaustion you feel isn’t relational failure — but spiritual resistance?
What if you’re standing in a war room, trying to fight a spirit with a spreadsheet…Using communication tools for a battle that requires spiritual authority?
Today, we’re talking about the invisible fight for your marriage.This episode is not about blaming your spouse.It’s about waking up discernment.It’s about calling intercessors back to their posts.
Before we go any further — if this episode already feels like it’s reading your mail, pause for a second.Hit subscribe, leave a comment telling me where you’re listening/reading from, and share this with a sister who’s quietly fighting for her home.
This message needs to reach the women who are tired of surface answers.
BODY POINT 1 — The Three-Part Human & the Three-Part Marriage
To understand why your marriage feels like a battlefield, we need to go back to foundation. " you have to understand who you are. As an African woman, this concept is second nature to me, and the Bible confirms it: Man is essentially a spirit, who has a soul, and lives in a body.
Scripture is clear — you are a spirit, you have a soul, and you live in a body.
And your marriage reflects that same three-part design.
1️⃣ The Physical Layer
This is what most couples focus on:
Bills
Chores
Sex
Parenting logistics
Who did what, who didn’t
This is Important — but not central.
2️⃣ The Soul Layer
This is where therapy usually sits:
Emotions
Communication styles
Attachment patterns
Personality clashes
Still important — but still not the root.
3️⃣ The Spiritual Layer
This is the foundation of one flesh.This is where covenant lives.This is where unity is either protected or attacked.
Now pay attention to what I’m about to say, in fact write this down:
If you only work on behaviour and emotions, but ignore the spiritual layer, you leave the most important door wide open.
You can regulate your tone.You can read your attachment style.You can learn conflict scripts.
But if your marriage is under spiritual pressure — behavioural change alone won’t hold.
You end up trying to fix a spiritual leak with emotional duct tape.
And eventually… it fails.
III. BODY POINT 2 — The Red Flags of Spiritual Warfare
The devil hates families.He hates covenant.He hates stability, safety, and generational healing.
And no — saying “I do” does not make you immune.
If anything, marriage puts a target on your back.
Lets move forward quickly, How do you know if you are under spiritual warfare? :
here are four signs that what you’re facing is more than a personality clash:
🚩 1. The Escalation Loop
Simple conversations escalates quickly or explode.
For instance, You start talking about dishes…And suddenly you’re fighting about respect, worth, and past wounds.
Afterwards You walk away exhausted, feeling guilt or ashamed, and emotionally bruised because of what you said or how you behaved — every time.
🚩 2. Another sign is The Counselling Wall
When You’ve done therapy or couple counselling. and You’ve implemented strategies.But the atmosphere in your home doesn’t shift. instead YOUR Insight increases — but your intimacy doesn’t.
🚩sign no 3. Strategy Fatigue
When You’ve changed your tone.for example You’ve stopped “nagging.”You’ve tried silence, softness, and self-improvement. Yet the home still feels heavy.
🚩sign no 4. The Blind Spot
Everyone else can see a clear issue in your spouse — but he genuinely cannot.
Or he Minimises it. Deflects or Spiritual numbness.
That’s often not stubbornness — it’s a stronghold.
Let me say this clearly:
When common sense fails and counselling stalls, you are not dealing with immaturity.You are dealing with spiritual resistance.
BODY POINT 3 —
Let me introduce you to Your New Job Description: Intercessor
It is time to stop discussing your marriage problems with every 'well-meaning' person. Unless that person is ready to go into the trenches of midnight prayer and fasting with you, they are just noise. Your friends, family can't save your marriage. Your bestie can't save your marriage. Only the supernatural power of God can.
This is where the shift happens.
You must stop outsourcing spiritual authority. But if you want just empathy you can continue to give people access to your struggle without any change.
Scripture says:
“The weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God for the pulling down of strongholds.” — 2 Corinthians 10:4
Here’s what wisdom looks like now:
You observe patterns
You track recurring sore points
You identify access points
Is it finances?Control?In-laws?Sexual intimacy?Power struggles?
Once you identify the access point, you stop arguing with your spouse — and start addressing the enemy.
That may look like:
Midnight prayer
Fasting
Scripture declarations
Silence instead of reactions.
When the spiritual pressure breaks, communication will starts working again.The veil will lift.Therapy will makes sense again.
CONCLUSION — Move in Silence & Power
If divorce runs in your family line — don’t ignore it.Patterns repeat until someone interrupts them.
Once you identify it, you stop arguing with your husband and you start arguing with the enemy in the spirit. You wake up at midnight. You fast. You intercede.
When you break the spiritual deadlock through prayer, suddenly—boom!—you start 'hearing' each other again. The counseling finally starts to make sense because the veil has been lifted."
CONCLUSION: Move in Silence & Power
"Don't wait until your marriage becomes another statistic in your family tree. If your parents divorced, or your spouse's parents divorced, recognize that 'generational pattern' and cut it off at the root.
You are the gatekeeper of your home. You have the authority to invite the supernatural into your space and clear out the confusion.
Let me leave you with this:
Recognise that your husband is a spirit first
Discern the signs of warfare
Close unnecessary mouths
Open your heart to God
Some battles are not loud.Some victories are won quietly.
your marriage is worth the fight — but only if you use the right weapons.
Drop a comment if this resonated and see you in the next episode. Until then stay confident. Stay beautiful. Stay prayed up.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email contact@wholesomecounselling.com
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and Couple counselling. I support high-achieving Christians in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
Tuesday Jan 06, 2026
Tuesday Jan 06, 2026
New seasons are SPIRITUAL markers. As we step into 2026, let’s treat each transition with the respect it deserves. This year practice the following in your journey with God’s will before diving into your goals and vision boards! I hope this episode blesses you
What’s your intention for this year? Let’s chat in the comments!
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email contact@wholesomecounselling.com
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
Podcast Script: Starting 2026 Strong — A Spirit-Led Blueprint for a New Season
Hey family.Happy 2026.We actually made it.
And before we rush into goals, plans, or pressure… I want to pause right here and ask you something gently:
Did you just slide into this year…or did you transition?
Because there is a difference.
Waking up on January 1st is automatic.But crossing over intentionally—that’s spiritual.
This is not just a calendar change.This is a new season with God.A unique 12-month assignment.And if we’re not careful, 2026 can easily become 2025 part two.
Not this time.
Today, I want to give you a simple, spirit-led blueprint to start this year strong—emotionally, spiritually, and practically.
No pressure.No hype.Just alignment.
Point 1: Recognise the Power of a New Season
Let me start here.
I really hope you didn’t take this transition lightly.
Because in the spiritual realm, new seasons matter.
As Christians, we sometimes treat new months, birthdays, anniversaries, or even a new year like,“Oh… it’s just another day.”
But it’s not.
In Scripture, seasons, times, and transitions are significant.They are markers.They are portals.They are moments of reset and realignment.
And what’s interesting is this:People who aren’t even Christian understand this.
They honour first days.They journal on birthdays.They set intentions on anniversaries.They don’t treat milestones casually.
So why should we?
This year, I want you to become intentional with transitions.
When a new month starts—pause and pray.When it’s your birthday—don’t just celebrate, consecrate.When a new season begins—acknowledge it spiritually.
Don’t just let life happen to you.Commence it with authority.
Say,“God, I recognise this as a new season. I step into it consciously, not casually.”
That alone will shift how you experience 2026.
Point 2: Seek God’s Will Before You Set Goals
Now let’s talk about goals—because I know that’s where everyone’s mind is.
Vision boards.Plans.Big dreams.
And I love ambition.But the posture for this year is different.
Before you set goals…seek the face of God.
The prayer for 2026 is simple:
“Thy Kingdom come. Thy will be done.”
Not my will.Not my timeline.Not my ego.
God, choose for me.
Choose my inheritance.Guide me into the best part of my life.Close doors I’m emotionally attached to.Open doors I don’t even know to knock on.
Because let’s be honest—most New Year’s resolutions don’t survive the first quarter.
Not because people are lazy,but because willpower has limits.
Willpower can get you started.It can’t sustain you.
Scripture says,
“It is not of him who runs, but of God who gives the increase.”
This year, you are not running on discipline alone.You’re running on Holy Spirit power.
This is the year to be Spirit-led, not stress-led.Obedience-led, not pressure-led.
If God didn’t breathe on it, you don’t want it—no matter how good it looks on paper.
Point 3: Make Prayer Part of Your Job Description
Now this one is big.
In 2026, prayer is not optional.It’s not a backup plan.It’s not a “when things go wrong” response.
Prayer is part of your job description.
Just like work.Just like exercise.Just like daily routines.
You schedule meetings—schedule prayer.You protect gym time—protect time with God.
A consistent prayer life will:• save you from unnecessary heartbreak• clear confusion before it becomes chaos• sharpen your discernment• and invite the supernatural into ordinary days
Prayer aligns you before life demands from you.
And yes—include fasting.
I don’t need to overteach this.You already know fasting does what words alone can’t do.
It quiets the flesh.It sharpens the spirit.It breaks cycles.It resets priorities.
Even simple, intentional fasting creates spiritual clarity.
Closing: Move in Silence
And finally… this is the energy for 2026.
Move in silence.
This is not the year to announce everything early.Not every plan needs an audience.Not every process needs to be posted.
Let results speak.
Keep the vision between you and God until it can stand on its own.
Silence is not hiding.It’s protection.
Some things grow best away from noise.
Outro
As you step into 2026, remember this: don’t rush past transitions—honour them. Treat new seasons with intention, because awareness changes outcomes. Before you chase goals or pressure yourself with expectations, pause and let God set the direction. When His will leads, effort becomes lighter and purpose becomes clearer. And above all, make your connection with God non-negotiable. A consistent prayer life will steady you, protect you, and open doors you don’t have to force.
This is also the year to move wisely—quietly, confidently, and anchored in God. Not everything needs to be shared early. Let growth happen privately and let results speak loudly in time.
Stay aligned. Stay prayerful. Stay grounded.This year is unfolding exactly as it should.
I’ll see you in the next episode 🤍
KEYWORDS & HASHTAGS
#NewYear #SpiritualAwakening #Intentions #2026Vision #Faith #PurposeDriven #GodsWill #Prayer #MindsetMatters, SeekFirst #DivineGuidance #NewYear2026 #FaithJourney #Prayer #IntentionalLiving #GoalsWithPurpose #GodsPlan #SpiritualGrowth,
Tuesday Dec 30, 2025
Tuesday Dec 30, 2025
If you’re on holidays right now, save this episode for later—it’s one you’ll want to come back to when you need grounding, reassurance, and hope.
In times of crisis, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and lost—especially when it feels like you’ve run out of options. In this episode, we explore fear, faith, and God’s provision, drawing on powerful biblical stories to show how a shift in perspective can reveal the help that has been there all along.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
TRANSCRIPT
[0:00 - 1:30] THE PROPHETIC OPENING
Host: "Welcome back. Today, I’m speaking to the person who feels like they’ve reached the end of their supply. You’re in a desert season, and the water in your bottle has run out. You’re looking at your dreams, your business, or your children, and you’re whispering, 'I can’t watch this die.'
As your coach and as a student of the Word, I want to tell you: The provision you are crying for isn't coming—it’s already there. You just can’t see it yet. Today, we’re looking at Hagar and Abraham to unlock the spiritual sight required to see your 'Well' and your 'Ram.'"
[1:30 - 4:30] SECTION 1: HAGAR – THE BLINDNESS OF PANIC (Genesis 21)
Host: "Let’s look at Hagar in Genesis 21. She’s cast out. She’s in the desert of Beersheba. The Bible says she tucked her son, Ishmael, under a bush because she couldn’t bear to watch him die. She was sobbing. She was in a state of total nervous system collapse—survival mode at its peak.
Prophetically, notice this: God hears the boy crying. He speaks to Hagar and says, 'What is the matter, Hagar? Do not be afraid.' And then, Genesis 21:19 says, 'Then God opened her eyes and she saw a well of water.'
The Coaching Insight: The well didn't suddenly materialize out of thin air when she stopped crying. The well was likely there the whole time. But fear has a physiological and spiritual effect—it narrows your vision. Panic creates a 'scarcity blind spot.' You are so busy mourning the empty bottle in your hand that you cannot see the overflowing well at your feet.
Is God not providing, or are you just too afraid to look up? I prophecy over you today: Your eyes are being opened. The 'Well' in your desert is about to be revealed."
[4:30 - 7:30] SECTION 2: ABRAHAM – THE POSTURE OF FAITH (Genesis 22)
Host: "Now, let’s pivot to a different mountain. Genesis 22. Abraham is walking up Moriah with Isaac—the son he waited 25 years for. Isaac, being a smart kid, asks the million-dollar question: 'Father, the fire and wood are here, but where is the lamb?'
Abraham’s response is the ultimate masterclass in faith. He doesn't vent his anxiety. He doesn't complain about the 'unfairness' of the test. He says: 'God himself will provide the lamb for the burnt offering, my son.'
The Theological Depth: Abraham wasn't lying to Isaac; he was speaking from a place of 'Postured Faith.' He knew that the God who gave the promise was responsible for the provision. He walked all the way to the point of no return—he actually raised the knife—before the intervention happened.
And what happened? He looked up, and there, caught in a thicket, was a ram.
The Lesson: For Hagar, the provision was a Well (sustenance for the journey). For Abraham, the provision was a Ram (a substitute for the sacrifice). God provides exactly what the specific season requires. But both required the person to look up."
[7:30 - 9:00] THE PROPHETIC COACHING DEEP-DIVE
Host: "Here is the bridge between these two stories: Faith is the ability to stay regulated when the bottle is empty.
If you are a parent figure, like Abraham or Hagar, your children are watching your response to scarcity. Isaac learned how to trust God by watching Abraham stay steady. Ishmael survived because Hagar finally lifted her head.
Prophetically, I sense some of you are at 'the thicket.' You’ve done the work, you’ve obeyed the hard 'Yes,' and now you’re waiting for the Ram. Your instructions are simple:
Stop staring at the empty bottle. (The past supply).
Lift your eyes. (Shift your perspective).
Acknowledge that God is the owner of the Mountain. Abraham called that place Jehovah Jireh—The Lord Will See To It. He will see to your mortgage. He will see to your accreditation. He will see to your healing."
[9:00 - 10:00] CLOSING & DECLARATION
Host: "Before you go, I want you to make this declaration with me: 'My eyes are open. My fear is gone. My provision is present.'
If you’ve been blinded by the desert heat, I pray right now for a divine 'opening of the eyes.' May you see the well that has been sitting right beside you this whole time.
I’ll see you in the next episode. Move in faith, stay in peace, and remember—the Ram is already in the thicket. God bless."
#ChristianCounsellingBallarat
#FaithOverFear
#JehovahJireh
#ProvisionInTheDesert
#SpiritualGuidance
#FaithJourney
#DivineProvision
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Tuesday Dec 23, 2025
Tuesday Dec 23, 2025
I know you're busy with family this Christmas, but save this episode/video for your quiet 'ghost era' moments.
Why Your Calling Sometimes Needs a “Ghost Era”
Ever felt like you had to explain your silence? Remember, your growth doesn’t need validation from others. Just like Joseph, sometimes you need to move quietly to protect what matters. 🤫 What boundaries are you setting this holiday season? Let’s discuss in the comments! #Boundaries #ProtectYourPeace #Leadership #Mindfulness #ChristmasWisdom #IntentionalLiving
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email, contact@wholesomecounselling.com
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
The Silent Move: Why Your Calling Sometimes Needs a “Ghost Era”
I know you're busy with family this Christmas, but save this episode/video for your quiet 'ghost era' moments.
There’s a part of the Christmas story we don’t really talk about.And it has nothing to do with carols, decorations, or a peaceful manger.
Let’s sit with Matthew chapter 2 for a moment — not in a churchy way, but in a real-life way.This part of the story isn’t romantic. It’s not soft.It’s about purpose under pressure.
Not every season of your life is meant to be loud.Not every move needs to be announced.And not every chapter needs an audience.
Some of the most important shifts you will ever makewill happen quietly.
The Bible tells us the Wise Men followed a star.
People can debate theology, science, symbolism — but let’s bring it home.That star represents direction. Calling. A sense that your life matters.
You have that too.
You might not call it a “calling.”Maybe you call it a dream.A pull.A knowing.A restlessness that won’t let you settle for survival.
And here’s what no one really prepares you for:
The moment your star starts shining — even just a little — someone notices.
Enter Herod.
Herod wasn’t curious.He was threatened.
He didn’t ask about Jesus because he wanted to honour Him.He asked because your growth threatens insecure systems.Your healing disrupts fragile power.Your clarity exposes dysfunction.
And the danger isn’t always obvious at first.
Sometimes it comes disguised as interest.As concern.As support.
Herod asked questions long before he showed his rage.
And that’s real life, isn’t it?
Not everyone asking about your plans is rooting for you.
Now here’s the part that really gets me.
The Wise Men sensed something wasn’t right — and they didn’t confront Herod.They didn’t explain themselves.They didn’t send a long message.
They simply… went another way.
No drama.No speech.No need to clear the air.
They trusted their discernment.
Some of the tension you’ve been feeling lately?The weird energy?The distance that suddenly feels necessary?
It’s not because you’re cold.It’s because you’re learning discernment.
And when Herod realised he’d lost control, he reacted violently.
That matters.
Because not everyone shows their true intentions when things are calm.Some people only reveal who they are when they realise they can’t control you anymore.
Then there’s Joseph.
And honestly — Joseph doesn’t get enough credit.
God speaks to him in a dream and says,“Get up. Take the child. Leave.”
No explanation.No timeline.Just urgency.
And Joseph moves.
Quietly.At night.Without an announcement.
He doesn’t post an update.He doesn’t gather opinions.He doesn’t overthink it.
He protects what God entrusted to him.
Some of you are in a season like that right now.
Not because you’re hiding —but because you’re protecting your nervous system, your faith, your future.
You don’t owe everyone access.You don’t owe every environment your energy.And you definitely don’t owe toxic spaces an explanation for your growth.
If the Prince of Peace had to be hidden to survive,why are you forcing yourself to stay visible in spaces that drain you?
Some seasons require a ghost era.
Not disappearing — but recalibrating.Healing.Strengthening.Listening.
Joseph teaches us something powerful:
Leadership isn’t loud.Wisdom isn’t reactive.And protection often looks like obedience before understanding.
Joseph knew how God spoke to him — and he trusted it.
Here’s a question worth sitting with:
Do you recognise God’s voice in your life?Or is everything so noisy that you can’t hear your intuition anymore?
Because the world is loud.Social media is loud.Opinions are loud.
But God often speaks in whispers.
And this is what I want you to remember:
Christmas isn’t just about birth.It’s about preserving purpose.
Your calling is worth the quiet season.It’s worth the unseen work.It’s worth the boundaries.
You’re not behind.You’re not missing out.You’re being protected.
Trust the timing.Trust the silence.Trust God’s leading — even when it doesn’t make sense yet.
Because sometimes, the most powerful move you can make…is the one no one sees.
Some of the biggest shifts in your life won’t come with an announcement.No warning.No applause.
Just a quiet knowing that it’s time to move — silently.
And if you’ve been feeling the pull to disappear, reset, or protect your peace,this might not be avoidance.
It might be wisdom.
Tuesday Dec 16, 2025
Tuesday Dec 16, 2025
Trusting your inner voice is crucial, especially when anxiety takes over. Your intuition may just be God's compass guiding you! How do you reconnect with your intuition during tough times? Share your thoughts below!
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an EMAIL - contact@wholesomecounselling.com
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
Survival mode can quietly hijack your faith, cloud your clarity, and distort your moral compass. When your nervous system stays dysregulated, it constantly sounds danger alarms—leaving you anxious, reactive, and spiritually disconnected. Learning to recognise and trust those internal signals, without letting fear take the lead, is the first step toward emotional regulation, spiritual discernment, and lasting peace.”
In this episode, we’re opening the Bible—not for a traditional theology lesson, but for a raw, psychological look at a hero running on fumes: King David, specifically in 1 Samuel chapter 27. This isn't the David of Goliath; this is David running on exhaustion, making flawed choices, and yet, still being covered by God's sovereign grace. We're talking about the painful reality of survival mode and how it can hijack your faith, your clarity, and your moral compass.
Let's look at the truth about Saul. In this chapter, David says to himself, “I shall now perish one day by the hand of Saul.” Now, this statement wasn't theological; it was motivated by his exhaustion. But listen to the key insight: his intuition—that deep internal knowing—was right about Saul's intentions.
Our intuition is often God's compass for guidance, especially when our analytical mind is spinning from stress. When you are constantly disregulated, your nervous system shouts warnings. Learning to trust that inner voice, even when you're afraid, is the first step toward reclaiming your peace.
Because he was so desperate for refuge, David moved far away, seeking safety with Achish, the Philistine. Now, think about the irony here.
Sometimes, the safety and validation we desperately need comes from an unexpected source—even someone we might consider an "enemy" or an outsider—while the people who should protect us (like Saul, his father-in-law, in your case that can be your father, your mother, sister, brother, friend can become the very source of our harm. This is validation for the listener who has had to create a chosen family because their biological one was toxic. God can use anyone, anywhere, to be the shield you need in a season of intense fear.
However, this desperation leads to compromise. The Bible tells us that David deceived Achish, raiding the Amalekites but claiming he was attacking his own people in Judah. This is the ugly truth of survival mode. When we are fighting for our lives, our character often takes a hit. We do things we never thought we would do—deceive, manipulate, cut corners—just to stay afloat.
I want to affirm the listener: If you’ve made compromises out of desperation, you are not alone. David, the "man after God's own heart," was there too. Acknowledge the lapse without letting shame consume YOU.
Survival mode is a fog, and it’s exhausting. It’s impossible to hear God’s voice clearly when your nervous system is constantly reacting out of fear, causing you to make regrettable choices.
If you are tired of operating out of that fear-based reactionary place and are ready to move into a place of intentional peace and clarity, I want to invite you into a quiet place of rest. Set aside this moment and resolve that you will stop running or chasing anything else but God. Pray that your mind will stay on Him alone. Find quiet moments and surrender your fears and worries. Enter into God’s rest. This is the true soft life.
Back to our story, The compromise only deepens. In the ultimate act of self-sabotage, David was ready to go into battle against Israel, fighting alongside the Philistines—the very battle that ultimately killed Saul. Survival mode distorts our moral compass and logic.
David was so consumed by the fear of Saul, he was ready to commit a profound sin and destroy his own destiny. When you are constantly triggered by fear, you are most likely to hurt yourself, your relationships, or your calling. This is a critical warning sign that you need a divine pause.
But thank God for divine protection! The other Philistine commanders refused him. They said, "No, we don't trust David." That rejection, which hurt David's feelings and felt like a humiliation, was literally the thing that saved his life, his family, and his future.
This is your healing lesson today: Every disappointment—the door that closed, the job you didn't get, the relationship that ended—might just be a blessing in disguise; it is often God’s redirection saving you from your own limited, fear-driven planning.
The story continues beautifully: David returned from exile just as the battle that killed Saul—his greatest enemy—was fought. David didn't have to lift a finger in that final fight. God fought it for him. The time of hiding, the compromises, the loneliness... it all came to an end. Hold on to the truth that it is always darkest just before the dawn. Your exile is temporary. Your deliverance is near.
Remember the lessons of 1 Samuel 27: Trust your intuition, seek safety wherever you find it, forgive yourself for the compromises of survival mode, and trust that God's redirection (even rejection) is always his protection.
If this message resonated, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who needs this encouragement. Join us next week as we continue to unpack the path to genuine emotional wholeness.
KEYWORDS/HASTAGS
#SurvivalMode #Faith #Intuition #KingDavid #MentalHealth #SpiritualJourney #Podcast #EmotionalHealth #SelfCare #ListenNow
Tuesday Dec 09, 2025
Tuesday Dec 09, 2025
You can sleep beside someone every night and still feel completely alone.That’s the reality for so many women in emotionally one-sided marriages — and that’s exactly what we’re discussing int his episode.
I hope this blesses you.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or Couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
You can sleep beside someone every night and still feel completely alone.That’s the reality for so many women in emotionally one-sided marriages — and that’s exactly what we’re diving into today.
Welcome back, beautiful sisters. Last week, we exposed the silent ache of being married but emotionally abandoned. We talked about detaching with wisdom… not to escape the marriage, but to stop losing yourself inside it.
But detaching is only step one.Today, we step into the deeper work — the rebuilding, the reclaiming, the rising.Because if you don’t do this inner work, you’ll swing between emotional extremes… shutting down, acting out, or even walking away from a marriage that still has potential.
Before we go further, let’s pause with compassion.Most emotionally unavailable husbands aren’t cruel — they’re unequipped. Many come from families with blurred boundaries, enmeshment, or emotional silence. They’ve never learned how to tune into their own feelings, let alone yours.
Haven said that… his journey is his responsibility.Your journey is yours.And today, we’re talking about your healing.
Key 1: Stop Circling — Prioritise Your Healing
I say this with love and authority as a marriage counsellor:Press pause on couples therapy.
Why?Because when you’re detaching, couples therapy can keep you trapped in the same loop — waiting for him to “get it,” hoping he’ll finally validate you, trying to change someone who is not emotionally ready.
Right now, the work is INWARD.This is the season to heal the original wounds:🩶 rejection🩶 abandonment🩶 unworthiness🩶 the grief of not being met emotionally
This is where your power starts to rise.
Key 2: Guard Your Heart (Yes — This Is Spiritual Warfare)
Sis, your marriage may feel like the battleground, but your heart is the actual target.
When emotional intimacy breaks with our lovers -our husbands, women often start questioning everything —their identity, their lovability, even their faith.
The enemy wants your confidence.Your hope. Your purpose. Your Calling. Your gifts.Your spiritual clarity.
But the war is won through simple, consistent practices:✨ honest prayer✨ grounding meditation✨ daily declarations over your future✨ choosing truth over emotional chaos
Guarding your heart is wisdom.
✨ Quick Pause — A Message for the Woman Feeling Lost
If you’ve been stuck in that exhausting cycle of explaining yourself… crying silently… feeling invisible… and you’re ready for REAL healing, I want to invite you into my Emotional Healing For Christian Women’s group
This is where we break the patterns, rebuild your identity, and restore your peace.
If that tug in your chest is saying “I need this,” follow it.The link is in the description. 💛
Now… back into the work.
Key 3: Get Clear on Your Needs in This Season
Most women don’t know what they need — because we’ve been trained to be last.
But your needs change with your season.And clarity is power.
Take yourself on a date.Or book a solo retreat.Sit with a journal and ask:“What do I need right now — emotionally, spiritually, financially, socially?”
Write down 10 core needs for this season.
Here’s what usually happens:You realise many of your needs are not dependent on your husband — he’s only responsible for supporting your journey, not completing it.
This is where you begin to reclaim yourself.
Key 4: Find Safe Sisterhood (Your Heart Needs It)
You need one safe woman —not a gossip partner,not someone who’ll inflame you,but someone mature, grounded, faith-filled.
A woman who can hold space for you.Validate you.Strengthen you.
Because the loneliness inside a marriage is heavy.And you’re not meant to carry it in isolation.
If you can’t find that woman, find a Christian counsellor.If your mum or aunty is safe, lean into that.Your heart needs anchoring.
✨ Summary
Sis, this work is not easy — but it is transformational.
✔️ Stop circling in couples counselling✔️ Guard your heart fiercely✔️ Identify your needs clearly✔️ Find a safe woman who can validate and ground you
You deserve peace.You deserve emotional safety.And you deserve to feel like yourself again.
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Tuesday Dec 02, 2025
Tuesday Dec 02, 2025
Being married doesn't always mean being fulfilled. Are you feeling unseen? This week, I unpack the heavy burden of emotional loneliness in marriages. It's time to validate your feelings and reclaim your emotional space! What steps are you taking to nurture your emotional well-being? Drop a comment!
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I’m Marvel Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
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TRANSCRIPT
Title: Understanding Loneliness in Marriage: Navigating Emotional Unavailability
Introduction: In today's episode of the Emotional Healing for Women podcast, I unpacked a profound yet often unspoken struggle—feeling lonely within a marriage. Many women find themselves married but emotionally isolated, especially when their spouses are emotionally unavailable. In this episode, we’ll explore this issue, drawing insights from the podcast to provide understanding and actionable steps for those grappling with this painful experience.
Main Content:
Section 1: The Reality of Emotional LonelinessThe podcast opens with a powerful statement: "You can be married and lonely." This resonates with many who experience emotional disconnection in their marriages. Mav emphasizes that emotional loneliness is not merely physical solitude but a deep sense of being unseen and unheard by one’s partner. This feeling can lead to confusion and self-doubt, particularly when one spouse feels neglected or invalidated by the other.
Section 2: The Impact of EnmeshmentA significant factor contributing to emotional unavailability is enmeshment within family dynamics. Mav explains that individuals from enmeshed families often struggle with blurred boundaries, making it hard to separate their emotional needs from those of their family members. This can lead to a spouse being emotionally occupied by unresolved family issues, resulting in their inability to connect with their partner. For example, first-born children often take on caregiving roles, which can diminish their ability to recognize and articulate their own emotional needs.
Section 3: The Cycle of Emotional AvoidanceThe podcast highlights how emotionally unavailable husbands may not even recognize their avoidance. Mav points out that many individuals learn to navigate relationships without true emotional intimacy, leading to patterns of invalidation. This can leave the lonely spouse feeling dismissed, as one listener recounted, "My husband would just say, no, that’s all in your head." This dismissal can create a cycle where the wife feels increasingly isolated and confused.
Section 4: The Consequences of Emotional NeglectMav discusses the toll that emotional neglect can take on a woman's mental and physical health. Chronic stress from feeling invalidated can lead to various health issues, including fatigue and anxiety. Furthermore, many women may find that past emotional wounds resurface in their current relationships, especially if they grew up with emotionally unavailable parent figures, which can lead to heightened feelings of abandonment and rejection.
Section 5: Taking Action Towards HealingDespite the challenges, Mav encourages listeners to take control of their emotional well-being. She emphasizes the importance of detachment—not as a form of punishment, but as a necessary step for self-preservation. Detachment can involve setting boundaries and creating space to reclaim one’s emotional health. Mav suggests that women recognize their worth as individuals and prioritize their emotional needs, stating, "You are deserving of emotional validation."
Conclusion: Key TakeawaysFeeling lonely in a marriage due to emotional unavailability is a common yet painful experience. Recognizing this loneliness is the first step towards healing. Women must allow themselves to feel validated and understood, not just as wives or mothers, but as individuals. By setting boundaries and focusing on self-care, women can begin to reclaim their emotional health and navigate their marriages more effectively. Remember, it’s essential to prioritize your well-being, and seeking help is a strength, not a weakness.
Tags: Emotional Loneliness, Marriage Challenges, Emotional Availability, Enmeshment, Women’s Health, Emotional Validation, Self-Care, Marriage Counseling, Christian Women, Emotional Healing.
#MarriageMatters #EmotionalWellness #HealingTogether #WomenInFaith #ChristianMarriage #LoveYourself #SelfCare #MentalHealthSupport #Relationships .